{"id":153,"date":"2020-09-03T10:01:49","date_gmt":"2020-09-03T10:01:49","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/maxcounselor.com\/wp1\/?p=153"},"modified":"2020-09-03T10:07:39","modified_gmt":"2020-09-03T10:07:39","slug":"guys-its-hard-to-change-isnt-it-helpful-hints-from-another-guy","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/maxcounselor.com\/wp1\/guys-its-hard-to-change-isnt-it-helpful-hints-from-another-guy\/","title":{"rendered":"Guys, It’s Hard to Change Isn’t It? Helpful Hints from Another Guy"},"content":{"rendered":"\n

A short and sweet article from a guy (not me) about guys in today’s world but also from the 70s. We (overall) haven’t changed. (I think it is hard for guys to change for a bunch of reasons. Hopefully, I can address those assumptions and influences in a more detailed way soon. In the meantime, you kinda get the gist of the struggle in this article.) <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Here we are in relationships with women, who, as a group have changed (I think progressed) tremendously in 50 years. Many of them really want guys to grow so they can relate better. But, then, bam! What the?!? A lot of us get stuck. (Plenty of guys really work at this but many of use, well, you know, don’t seem to.) Guys want to know how to make those changes, to please their wife. They ask me regularly. What’s the answer? It is complex, but this article gives a clue (hint: it is in our mindset). <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Jeff, the author, bases the theme of the article on the lyrics of a song from the TV show All in the Family<\/em>. The words go like this:<\/p>\n\n\n\n

“Boy, the way Glenn Miller played<\/em>
songs that made the hit parade<\/em>
Guys like me we had it made<\/em>
(hint) Those were the days<\/strong><\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Didn\u2019t need no welfare state<\/em>
ev\u2019rybody pulled his weight<\/em>
Gee our old LaSalle ran great<\/em>
(hint) Those were the days<\/strong><\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n

(hint) And you knew who you were then
girls were girls and men were men<\/strong>
Mister we could use a man like Herbert Hoover again<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n

People seemed to be content<\/em>
fifty dollars paid the rent<\/em>
freaks were in a circus tent<\/em>
(hint) Those were the days<\/strong><\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Take a little Sunday spin<\/em>
Go to watch the Dodgers win<\/em>
Have yourself a dandy day<\/em>
that cost you under a fin<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Hair was short and skirts were long<\/em>
Kate Smith really sold a song<\/em>
I don\u2019t know just what went wrong<\/em>
(hint) Those were the days<\/em>“<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

He then writes, “If you\u2019re like me, you skipped over reading the lyrics and jumped down to this sentence. No, go back and read the lyrics. They say a lot about what\u2019s happening in the world right now<\/strong>.”<\/p>\n\n\n\n

As a matter of fact, you may want to go and read the article<\/a> published at the Good Men Project. Like I said it is short and sweet. Ya just might learn a lot. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

For more help with your relationship, to learn some skills to do it differently, contact Max<\/a>.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Be safe and healthy and connected!<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

A short and sweet article from a guy (not me) about guys in today’s world but also from the 70s. We (overall) haven’t changed. (I think it is hard for guys to change for a bunch of reasons. Hopefully, I can address those assumptions and influences in a more detailed way soon. In the meantime, … Continue reading “Guys, It’s Hard to Change Isn’t It? Helpful Hints from Another Guy”<\/span><\/a><\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":2,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[1],"tags":[37,32,38,39],"class_list":["post-153","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-uncategorized","tag-change","tag-men","tag-relationships","tag-women"],"yoast_head":"\nGuys, It's Hard to Change Isn't It? 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