{"id":381,"date":"2022-08-31T06:32:36","date_gmt":"2022-08-31T06:32:36","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/maxcounselor.com\/wp1\/?p=381"},"modified":"2022-09-18T04:30:12","modified_gmt":"2022-09-18T04:30:12","slug":"building-a-foundation-to-grow-heal-or-improve-a-relationship-even-if-youve-been-at-it-a-while","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/maxcounselor.com\/wp1\/building-a-foundation-to-grow-heal-or-improve-a-relationship-even-if-youve-been-at-it-a-while\/","title":{"rendered":"Building a Foundation to Grow, Heal, or Improve a Relationship Even If You&#8217;ve Been at It a While!"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<figure class=\"wp-block-embed is-type-video is-provider-youtube wp-block-embed-youtube wp-embed-aspect-16-9 wp-has-aspect-ratio\"><div class=\"wp-block-embed__wrapper\">\n<iframe loading=\"lazy\" title=\"Building a Foundation to Grow, Heal, or Improve a Relationship (Video Intro 01)\" width=\"1140\" height=\"641\" src=\"https:\/\/www.youtube.com\/embed\/xFk7IyyRG7I?feature=oembed\" frameborder=\"0\" allow=\"accelerometer; autoplay; clipboard-write; encrypted-media; gyroscope; picture-in-picture\" allowfullscreen><\/iframe>\n<\/div><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<p><a href=\"http:\/\/youtu.be\/xFk7IyyRG7I\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noreferrer noopener\">YouTubeVideo 01 &#8211; Building a Foundation<\/a><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Most of the people I work with want to grow, heal, and\/or do their part to have a loving relationship.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>We deeply want to shift, our intention, our goal, is to make some changes.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>However, it may not be going like we want or consistently happening.  You do okay for a day or two, then slip back.  Maybe, you are able to keep the change happening for a couple weeks.  Then, a short while later, your partner notices that you haven&#8217;t kept it going.    <\/p>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\"><strong>What&#8217;s going on?<\/strong><\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p>Maybe, you\u2019ve been trying really hard to make changes. You feel motivated, or you used to be (some of us can get so tired of trying).<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>For example, you\u2019ve probably been doing lots of things to make those changes. You\u2019ve read books, watched YouTube Videos, searched for and read articles, downloaded apps, and\/or sought out advice from experts. You might have kept trying to talk with your significant other about the issues.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Or, maybe, you consider yourself smart (I tend to avoid comparative words like this because everyone has many ways they are intelligent).  You&#8217;ve figured things out before by using your analytical skills.  This relational problem (an intra-personal problem is a problem inside of us and an interpersonal conflict is about one between one or more people) just is not getting better or very quickly.  (Hint: The problem is about &#8220;figuring it out.&#8221;)<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Maybe, you feel quite accomplished in your job or career.  All that effort has paid off at work.  You&#8217;ve developed a good reputation, been promoted, people depend on you.  You&#8217;re doing well there.  You might be trying to apply the same principles to yourself or with your partner.  A Performance Improvement Plan (PIP) is not usually the answer to fixing personal issues.  (The typical PIP in a corporate culture tends to get responses related to fear [e.g., of losing a job], guilt [e.g., about being inadequate or making mistakes], feeling embarrassed or ashamed [e.g., having to be called into the boss&#8217; office, feeling like something is wrong with us], or feeling angry [e.g., feeling judged, blamed, scape-goated]).  Do they work?  Sometimes, at a huge cost (all those emotions or e-motion are lots of energy in motion).  <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>So, what\u2019s happening?<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\"><strong>How Come The Desired Change Seems So Difficult Or Is Taking So Long?<\/strong><\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p>There are a number of reasons why this happens . . . but let&#8217;s start with this foundational one.  <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>This answer sits on our neck and between our ears . . . <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Yes, that&#8217;s right, our brain.  <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>Our brain resists change.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Why does our brain resist changes?  Aren&#8217;t changes beneficial?  Yes.  Sometimes.  It depends.  <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>(I am trying to keep this post bite-sized.)<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\"><strong>So, what can you do right now?<\/strong><\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p>Be <strong>gentle<\/strong> with yourself is a great first step.  <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>This is not always easy but so very helpful.  Really!<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>How could you do that?<\/p>\n\n\n\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\"><li>Speak to yourself in a kind way. <\/li><li>Give yourself enough time and space when stressed.<\/li><li>You can even give yourself some appreciation for making an effort. <\/li><li>Celebrate your little wins.  <\/li><\/ul>\n\n\n\n<p>Being gentle may seem counterintuitive to pursuing this goal.  <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>You may want to push it, accomplish the change, move forward, keep talking or arguing about whatever you feel is blocking you.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>To help with this, ask yourself a couple questions . . .<\/p>\n\n\n\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\"><li>Has this worked so far with these concerns?<\/li><li>Have I tried the gentle approach (really tried it beyond a spa day)?<\/li><\/ul>\n\n\n\n<p>So, what if I try it the usual way?  <\/p>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\"><strong>The Problem If You Don&#8217;t<\/strong><\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p>The problem is, that the strategy of being harsh toward yourself (and brain) can look like . . .<\/p>\n\n\n\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\"><li>pushing yourself, <\/li><li>demanding yourself or your partner to change, <\/li><li>getting angry at yourself or others for not doing better <\/li><li>for not changing fast enough, <\/li><li>criticizing the methods you\u2019ve tried<\/li><\/ul>\n\n\n\n<p>and it tends to backfire and actually delays progress.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>We are not machines.  We are complex human beings.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>The brain, ours or another&#8217;s, tends to pull back, resist, hunker down when it experiences pain.  <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>You may have heard, &#8220;no pain, no gain.&#8221;  <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Well, some people believe . . . no pain equals gain.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>In matters of relationships, with ourselves or with another person, being kind, caring, and gentle is a great place to start to build a foundation of real lasting change.  It probably seems paradoxical.  <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>So, give being gentle a try.  And be gentle in being gentle.  If we forget to be gentle, you can try to remember that learning involves some forgetting.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Check the video out <a href=\"https:\/\/youtu.be\/xFk7IyyRG7I\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noreferrer noopener\">here<\/a>.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>YouTubeVideo 01 &#8211; Building a Foundation Most of the people I work with want to grow, heal, and\/or do their part to have a loving relationship. We deeply want to shift, our intention, our goal, is to make some changes. However, it may not be going like we want or consistently happening. 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